Whether your loss was recent or it has been some time, you probably have already figured out that society doesn’t understand much about grief, nor does it equip us to know what to do after a devastating loss. We live in a society that wants to avoid pain – not talk about it, pretend we’re okay, cover it up, numb it, or just power through it. Have you noticed how uncomfortable people can be around your grief?
This can leave grievers very confused and believing things like:
- We should be doing better than we are, so there must be something wrong with us.
- We need to figure out how to fix this.
- We are alone and misunderstood because people around us just don’t get it – so, again, there must be something wrong with us.
So please hear us when we tell you that you are not crazy, there is nothing wrong with you, and you don’t need to be fixed! You have suffered an intense loss – possibly a life-changing event.
Megan Devine says in her book; It’s Okay Not to Be Okay (which we highly recommend) “Grief is not a problem to be solved; it’s an experience to be carried. The work here is to find – and receive – support and comfort that helps you live with your reality. Companionship, not correction, is the way forward. “
We hope that MyGriefCare™ can companion you through your journey.
You might have to change the way you think. The goal is not to get your grief over as quickly as possible. We can assure you that it doesn’t work that way. Embracing your grief is the true path to where you hope to be. That can be a scary thought, but we promise you that this is the right way.
Earl Grollman said, “Grief is not a disorder, a disease or a sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical and spiritual necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve.”
Well, we know there is no “cure” for grief. But we can tell you that the only way to the other side of grief and suffering is to walk through it and experience it – in your time and in your way. And you don’t have to do it alone.
Please don’t judge or criticize yourself. Allow yourself permission to grieve. Tell the truth about how you feel. Be gracious to yourself. The last thing you need is to think you “aren’t doing this right.”
Questions to Ponder:
- Can you think of any incorrect information you believed about grief
- How has that impacted you?
Let’s start changing your thinking today!